Chaos multipled

Our home recently has been covered (and still is) in dust and grime, our household more than usual has been thrown into chaos. We have finally decided to renovate, this has been a long time coming really, we moved in knowing the kitchen and bathroom needed doing almost four years on here we are.... This has brought with it the usual tears, limited coping skills and need for calm and sadly that is from the parents. Going in to this we felt prepared, but really nothing could prepare us for the things that have come about. The non verbal, the meltdowns the angst, tip toe walking and flapping that chao brings. The kids have lost not only structure and routine, but all things in the house have been moved around, we shower in a mobile bathroom on the driveway, we use the toilet there. We cooked our meals in the youngests room and our boys went back to sharing a room. Currently I am pleased to report that as I type this they are back safely in their own beds in their own rooms oh the joy and calm that this brings to us! Our household has been turned upside down, we have had trades of every sort through from early till late. Kids and us have watched as the kitchen and bathroom were packed up then demolished, then so slowly rebuilt, and not quite the same as before, the anxiety this has brought about from all three children in such individual ways has been trying, so very trying. Of course for all the stress it has brought I must admit to my excitement at having a new kitchen and bathroom is my driving force, I have waited for this! Lived with the horror bathroom and dealt with the daggy kitchen. Renovating on tv looks so much simpler than this, in real life there are children running around and in our real life we have the 3 now 4 yr old checking out power tools, power points and where the trades store the keys to the various utes they all drive. There is nothing like a small child attempting to "borrow" a ute! On tv the decisions seem simple in real life we are faced with costs and time frames and durability, in the autism life we ask is this over stimulating? Is this too much when they are out of sorts and needing a bath to wind down/calm, is this practical for a family of five? So many questions and so few answers, and most of these big ones are asked while trying to get a meltdown into coping mode and prevent the youngest from driving off in a ute. Life has been chaos still really is, but right now we are at the pretty much at the complete stage, big decisions made main work completed and house slowly moving back into some semblance of order. I wish tho putting the house back together was as simple as putting the kids back together..